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Instacart- Better than Sliced Bread? Part A

By Joni Johnson  

A few of us gathered around the Socrates Café talking about what brought us joy.  Joanne Hafner was not there.  But if she had been, she would have mentioned Instacart.com.  She started using it early in the pandemic because she didn’t want to go to the stores.  At that time, there was a question of mask use and a reluctance to go shopping “out there”. She discovered Instacart.com and was an immediate convert.

Instacart works with a large number of stores including Safeway, Albertsons, Costco, Fred Meyers, Bed, Bath and Beyond, Staples, Target, Best Buy, the Wine Shop, Big Lots, Rite Aid, Natural Grocers, Petcoand the Vitamin Shoppe.

According to Joanne, you get two weeks free and then it’s a $99 yearly fee.  When I used Instacart, I discovered there was  also a small service fee – less than $3—for each order.  On the Instacart website, you fill out a shopping list and decide on a tip.  You have to spend $35 at a particular store to avoid a delivery fee.  They offer you time windows that are available for your delivery, and then drop off the items at your door, ring your bell and then off they go.

If they don’t have a specific item, they have can substitute something with your permission.  If they know they are out of a particular item when you order, they will tell you at the time of your order.  Joanne ordered produce and has only been disappointed once with a too soft tomato.

Joanne says that she loves Instacart and feels that it is well worth the money.  She definitely plans on continuing to use it even after Covid goes away.  She feels that it saves her all sorts of time and energy so she is willing to put up with the cost and an occasional mistake.  Other residents who use Instacart were all were happy with their decisions.

I decided that I needed to try this out myself.  Joanne uses a computer, but I have an IPhone and Instacart provides a downloadable app, which I imagine would work just as well on any modern cell phone that provides for message texts.  There is also an 800 number where people over 60 can get help with ordering, but I really think it is much easier if you have a computer.  So I set up my account and downloaded the app.  (They sent me the link so it was very easy).

I decided to order from Freddie’s. I ordered using my computer but during the shopping phase, the texting occurred using my phone and app.  I ordered later in the day.  I could have had it delivered within 5 hours but I preferred to wait until the following morning.  I had loads of two-hour windows to choose from then, so I chose 11am-1pm.  Later that evening, I decided to add 4 more things to the cart.  It was very easy to do.   In my order, they found 2 items that might require substitutions and asked me if I would accept particular substituted items just in case. During the shopping phase, I was texted with another substitution choice which I was able to work out with texts and pictures.

Before Joanne called me up and suggested this article, I had never thought about ordering on-line even though I really don’t like shopping.  I kept thinking the produce or the meat wouldn’t be as good. After writing this article, I am beginning to convert.  It certainly saved me time and I like to shop by computer- especially in the winter. But I realize there are other delivery options out there, so I’m going to do some more looking around before I settle on which one I want to use.

Thank you Joanne.  It certainly could be better than sliced bread!

STAY TUNED NEXT MONTH FOR Part B:  JONI’S GROCERY DELIVERY RESEARCH AND SELECTION ADVENTURES.  This will include more input from residents as well as information about the differences between pick-up and delivery and the differences in delivery directly from Fred Meyers, Albertsons, Costco and Safeway versus delivery using Instacart.com. It will also include how the Manor provides delivery service from Fred Meyers to any of its Residents.

 

 

 

Comments, Letters, Notices

1.  Do you donate to the Employee Thank You Fund by bank transfer to a US Bank Account?  If so, contact El Studebaker (x  ), Residents Council Treasurer, as soon as possible.  RC bank accounts are being shifted to Rogue Valley Credit Union, and the US Bank account will be closed.  You can donate to the RVCU account or sign up for a charge to your RVM account, but some change will need to be made.

2.   Minutes by Minutes — from the Advisory Committees

3.  Rogue Valley Country Club Acknowledgment

4. The Complement’s compliments

5.  MyRVM and the Complement

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Landscape and Grounds Advisory Committee Minutes of the December 2, 2020 Meeting (via Zoom), Linda Spence, Chair

Old Business 2. Master Plan/Resident Handbook There has been some early work done, but Stan had no specific report. David referred Stan to page 23 of the Resident Handbook that prohibits exterior wall decorations on clapboard siding. These are commonly violated. David stated that requests to clarify the policy have been made with little success. It was suggested that allowing wall decorations in the alcove entry area would be appropriate. Stan said that he would follow through on this issue. There also have been concerns expressed about allowable statues, planters and decor. Sometimes they have been oversized. Specific size limits would be useful.

 

Rogue Valley Country Club Acknowledgment

Rogue Valley Country Club was recently featured in BoardRoom Magazine, a major industry publication that reaches thousands of clubs worldwide, regarding their community efforts during the Almeda fire crisis.  Here is a link to the magazine about their efforts in supporting RVM residents during the evacuation.

https://pub.lucidpress.com/BoardRoomMagazine/#_0

 

The Complement’s compliments

To (in no particular order):

MyRVM and its electronic elves: for substantial improvements – goodness on the wellness page, addresses in the address bar, and a how-to page (next: how to find all the good stuff?)

Sarah Karnatz: for inventing the Wednesday night drinky-winky program.  Attawoman!  (it may be correct, but somehow it just doesn’t sound as congratulatory)

RVM Administration: for launching an all-campus preparedness development program

Joni Johnson and her interviewees: for showing that it’s not what you talk about but how you do it that matters

Mary Jane Morrison: for keeping the entertainment programs flowing on Channel 900 under challenging conditions.

RVM Staff:  for example, Stan tells us they’re stretched thin and workin’ hard, but finding James pruning our garden on Sunday afternoon really brought it home

Mary Bjorkholm and her magic lens:  for being the eyes of the world for the shut-ins.

The front desk receptionpersons:  for keeping the heart beating no matter how little blood flows

The brown-bag-bearers: for swift completion of their appointed rounds and Pavlovian training – hundreds of people now salivate whenever the doorbell rings

 

 

Doorbell rings. Brown Bag appears. Food!                       (E. Lippman)

Where do the brown bags go?                                      (Sol Blechman)

When eating out means having takeout                      (Gini Armstrong)

breakfast, dessert, lunch, dessert, dinner, dessert…                  (pat b)

 

myRVM and The Complement

At a recent RPG meeting, someone asked if the Preparedness information on The Complement could be posted on myRVM so more people could see it.  From our standpoint, the answer is “Certainly!”  We are here to benefit the RVM community.  If that involves putting out our information through some other pathway, we are happy to do it — although we hope everybody will read The Complement anyway!

By the nature of the internet, anyone with access can link to, copy, or download our material.  Because myRVM is a restricted-access site, this may be difficult.  However, we will provide on request off-line copies of our material so that it can be posted if desired.

Attribution of source is good practice as well as common courtesy, and is normally not an issue in much preparedness material, since it is usually based on public domain sources.  However, an important point — the creative work of individuals that is posted on The Complement, whether written or photographed, should always be properly cited and never used for commercial purposes without their permission

Residents Council Meeting Zoom Discussion

 

by Bob Buddemeier and Joni Johnson

On January 19, Residents Council President Gary Crites and Vice President Gini Armstrong introduced an innovation: a Zoom discussion group as a follow-up to the Residents Council meeting on the 18th.  A dozen residents talked for an hour about RVM and residents Council issues of mutual interest, ending with a consensus that it had been very worthwhile, plus a commitment from the officers to make it a monthly event.

The first topic to come up was the Plaza dining area renovations. An issue that attracted general agreement involved management of walkers and wheelchairs – there were concerns about the use of “walker garages” with servers as valet parking attendants.  Would there be enough servers to avoid delays in either food service or walker parking?  Would there be enough pedestrian space to avoid congestion as diners, servers, and walkers moved about?  How would wheelchairs and scooters fit into the mix?  The consensus was that these questions needed to be addressed from actual experience, by getting enough residents and servers to actually simulate the process and look for possible problems.  Gini and Gary will talk to Stan about the wheelchairs, and those participants at the meeting with walker issues agreed to inform Stan, Eric, and the DSAC of this need, and to participate in tests to identify potential problems.

Discussion then moved on to issues regarding institutional support of resident needs.  The opinion was expressed that, although we are fortunate to have some very caring and supportive staff members and executives, this seems to be a matter of good fortune rather than policy or organizational structure on the part of RVM or PRS.  There was general agreement that there needed to be more reliable ways to meet resident needs such as in cases of illness, or death of a partner.  Some central and reliably available source of sympathetic information and assistance is needed to make sure that RVM is a consistently caring community. It was agreed that Gini and Gary would help form a small committee to look into existing policies and organization at other communities and to suggest how we might implement a more meaningful approach here.

Participants also brought up the need for supportive assistance in terms of integration of new residents.  Currently, newcomers are somewhat on their own and fairly isolated, not having the chance to meet people on campus as typical in pre-Covid days.  The Ambassador program seems to have temporarily died during Covid, although it is being considered again. A new online Newcomers group has been formed to help RVM newcomers meet one another during the Pandemic.  This new group, started by one of our own newly arrived residents, has already had one Zoom meeting and a second one is planned for February.  If you are interested, please contact Asifa Kanji at asifakanji@gmail.com.

Staying Sane and “Relatively Happy” during Lockdown

How to avoid Feeling Isolated and Depressed

Interview with Linda Bellinson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker at RVM

 

by Joni Johnson

           Linda Bellinson

Linda Bellinson, our RVM Licensed Clinical Social Worker, has been working with various groups on campus to alleviate the feelings of isolation and depression that can often affect residents at the Manor because of aging and loss of a loved one. However, these feelings have intensified and affected even more residents since the beginning of the Covid-19 series of lock-downs and protection measures.  By the time this article is available for publication, it will be almost 10 months of serious isolation for many of our RVM residents.

While hope is on the horizon with vaccination shots and eventual freedom from all of these restrictions, we really don’t know how it will be implemented. So increasing our strategies for overcoming the loneliness brought on by the pandemic is still of great importance.

I asked Linda about her experience and suggestions in working with clients who have been feeling the pains of isolationShe cites the plethora of articles that form a real scientific basis for the efficacy of caring for animals and plants and how they help lower heart rates, improve cognitive function and the ability to sleep. Caring for others lowers the rates of anxiety and depression and provide an improved outlook on life because it helps us focus on something other than ourselves.  Just the act of stroking a pet has benefits.  And, oddly and luckily enough, there is also quite an amazing benefit to having a plant to care for.  While not everyone has, wants or can keep an animal, almost everyone can care for plants. And there is evidence that plants not only improve the environment in a room by increasing the quality of air in a room over a twenty-four hour period, but that caring for plants also increases mood levels and lowers rates of anxiety and depression.  The key is caring for someone or something else.

From anonymous: Give a smallish, very hardy, potted plant, with very easy-to-follow care instructions [“put me near a sunny window and give me 1.5 oz of water every Sunday” – that way you could include a fancy shot glass as a gift reminder.  Or some other volume.  Or a marked very small calendar.]  You could explain that you love the little green fellow but you’re running out of window sills and then you have an excuse to call up to check on it and talk about your photosynthetic babies.

Linda cites computers and smart phones as having the potential to improve our connection with others through Zoom, Face-time, Skype and just the sheer act of telephoning others. People who have scheduled regular family conversations, grandparents calling children and grandchildren pay an enormous dividend in feeling connected to the outer world.  We so often wait for people to call us and if they don’t, we feel ignored or forgotten.  But why should we wait for others to call us.  Why not be proactive and call others.  If you have been part of a group that met before Covid but then stopped meeting even on Zoom, it gives you a wonderful source of people to call. It makes you an active participant and makes the receiver feel valued and considered.

The Wellness committee has a group that is sending cards to residents here at the Manor.  But why not do the same with your friends and neighbors. There is evidence that shows that getting cards from others, even complete strangers, helps people feel connected.  And those who write the cards feel good by doing something for others.  It isn’t simple.  It requires thought, time and energy.  But little acts of kindness go a long way!

Many people at RVM have lived through all sorts of difficult situations and through them have learned to be resilient and patient.  This pandemic is just one more SNAG along the way. And so our residents have been creative in navigating through the bleak times.  This is another moment when our creativity can bring us new experiences and new relationships.  The question is how can we challenge ourselves to be open to new things rather than shutting down and saying no.  Our residents who have had to dig deep in past times, have the capacity to find creative ways to help each other and themselves now.

Another important point is that this is also a time to reach out for help.  Seek it out from friends and family, your churches and synagogues, but also from the services that RVM provides like Linda Bellinson (x7157) and Father Joel (x7296).  The important thing is not to go it alone!  Reach out for support.  This is a community.  It is our community! Take advantage!

Articles with information on how pets and plants help you to deal with Isolation and Depression:

https://www.thedenverchannel.com/news/national/companion-dogs-help-with-pandemic-anxiety

https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/alleviating-anxiety-stress-and-depression-pet

https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/well-being/pets-and-mental-health/


https://greatist.com/grow/plants-mental-health#They-remind-you-to-keep-moving

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/plants-self-care#The-extra,-life-enhancing-benefits-of-loving-a-plant

 

 

Getting to Know You! One way to avoid the feeling of Isolation!

 

RVM New Letter Writing Project joins with

the “Senior Ninja Project” to Celebrate the Holidays

By Joni Johnson

 

What do you get when you mix the creativity and desire to be of service of 5-15 year olds with the creativity and that same desire to be of service of us older folk who have been around the block a time or two?  Especially during this difficult period of separation and seclusion. You get lots of love and virtual cuddles!

Jane and Steve Harris, with the support of the Wellness Advisory Committee and along with a core of writers (many of them from the same committee), created a card writing project here at the Manor soon after the Covid crisis began. The purpose was to alleviate people’s sense of isolation by letting our residents know that they were being thought about and supported.  As Jane said, cards can be a healing gift to people.  Cards can be held, displayed and re-read, a reminder of the warm and caring feelings of the sender.  It certainly helps people deal with the depression that can come with this long period of isolation.

Completely separately, Willow Wind Community School in Ashland set up a “Seniors Ninja Project” to have students provide support to seniors in the community as a way to promote outreach and service to others.

Initially, the RVM writing project had twenty-eight participants sending cards featuring photographs by Bob Carter to RVM community recipients.  By now, well over 100 cards have been sent for all sorts of reasons — Thanksgiving, holiday and “just because”.  And from these beginnings, new relationships have formed with distanced meetings, phone calls, walks and e-mail correspondence as well as plans for getting together after restrictions are lifted.

 

So how did the Ashland Senior Ninja Project get involved with the RVM writing project?  By serendipity and good will.  Our own Sarah Karnatz’s former OSU advisor now has a son who goes to  Willow Wind Community School,  and she offered to connect Sarah with The “Senior Ninja Project”.These students provided over 150 cards made by participants from all grade levels. Most of the cards went to the writing project and the rest went to residents in the Health Center, Care Suites and the Memory Support Center.  The principal of the school even brought the cards herself to Sarah on the Monday before Christmas and the rest is history. Look at these cards and let them bring a smile to your face.  Remember, there were 150 of them, each different, each made by hand.

Telling the Story of RVM

WELCOME, HISTORIAN JORDAN MO!

Jordan is Part 4 of the 3-part article below, which was crafted in part with the goal of attracting a volunteer to the position of Resident Council Historian.  It is a testimony to the writing skill and persuasive power of the staff of The Complement that it worked without even being published!  When asked to introduce herself to the subjects of her future narratives, Jordan submitted the following:
“JORDAN MO is a native of and survivor of Minnesota’s worst weather (she credits her Norwegian heritage) before migrating to California to Whittier Union High school, UCLA, and a peripatetic career in advertising, retail, banking, the LA County Assessor’s Office, political consulting and, lastly, avocado ranching.  Volunteerism included the LA Opera Company, progressive politics (especially the women’s movement) and ACLU.  Jordan and Jan Hines were close friends at UCLA and re-connected in retirement in Santa Barbara.   They decided to move on to RVM after a presentation at Fess Parker’s and a free breakfast!  Look for Jordan most afternoons walking their white Scottie dog “Annie”.”

            Faye Isaak

RVM History part 1, by Connie Kent

Once upon a time there was a tall bare hill near a middle-size town in Southwestern Oregon. From the top of the hill, one could look out over nearby fields, orchards and communities of the Rogue Valley. In 1955, several ministers from area congregations got together and dreamed. They dreamed of a retirement community that would be the finest in the country, one that would attract people from all over the United States. They formed a nonprofit corporation, purchased the first fifteen acres atop the hill, and set about promoting their vision.

Four years later, they had arranged financing, hired an architect, sold over a hundred apartments to prospective residents, and were ready to break ground for the Rogue Valley Manor. Two and a half years later, in January, 1961, the first residents moved in.

Initially, there were problems, of course. Almost immediately there was a tax issue: should residents be required to pay property taxes? There were operational deficits requiring an increase in apartment fees. There was an employee strike in 1977. There were problems with food service providers, personnel policies, and increasing indebtedness. But gradually, these obstacles were overcome, due in large part to the optimism and generosity of residents. And by its twentieth anniversary, the Manor was securely established and ready to grow.

Over the years, several residents have undertaken to record the history of the Manor, now in its sixty-first year. These are available in our library.

In July, 1981, Willa-Hoyt Budd wrote the short A History of Rogue Valley Manor, 1961-1981: In celebration of the Twentieth Anniversary.

In 1990, George M. Jemison published  A History of Rogue Valley Manor, 1955-1989.

In the years 1998 to 2003, an annual yearbook was published.

In 2015, Faye Isaak published her comprehensive history with lots of colored photos, Vision with a View: How Rogue Valley Manor Evolved through Grace and Gumption.  The book is in the RVM Library, and copies are available for sale at the RVM Foundation office ($25 apiece).

In addition, there are back copies of Hill Topics, which first appeared in November 1961 as Hill-Top-Ics.

Others have continued to carry on the work of these authors—not necessarily to write another history, but to keep track of important events as they unfold, to archive historic materials: in a word, as Manor Historians.

Norma Trump

RVM History Part 2by Joni Johnson

Norma and Mike Trump joined RVM in 2010, and she was RVM’s historian from 2011 until Daphne Fautin took over in 2015.  Before Norma, the post had gone vacant for a number of years.  While Norma never had formal training as a historian/librarian, she had been involved in genealogy for almost 60 years.  She and her husband, Mike, were extremely active with the Cloverdale Historical Society. They were in Cloverdale, California for 10 years before coming to RVM and were instrumental in helping the Historical Society erect the History Center. From the Cloverdale Historical Society current website, I was able to pull up the following paragraph: “From the early years of the Historical Society founded by Jack Howell with years of support from Marge Gray, Mike and Norma Trump, and many others to the building of the History Center, volunteers dedicated to preserving local history have made a difference”. In Mike and Norma’s honor, the research library was named the Trump Research Library.

During Norma’s time as historian, she and Mike scanned all of the old papers, catalogs and historical books as well as all of the issues of Hill Topics dating back to 1961. Everything was put on CDs.  In addition, she would go through the Mail Tribune looking for articles dealing with RVM residents including their activities, accomplishments and deaths. She would put these in binders.

Norma’s greatest wish is that RVM would finally dedicate a room to the history of the Manor with places for the binders, photographs and artifacts.  She feels that there is so much to offer our residents and prospective residents given our longevity, our own history and the continued change we see here at the Manor.

Daphne Fautin

RVM History Part 3by Daphne Fautin and Bob Buddemeier

Daphne Fautin was surprised at how easy it was to become Residents Council Historian.  She was still a newcomer (after arriving in mid-2015) when she responded to an RVMlist notice seeking a successor to Norma Trump.  “I thought there would be competition,” she said.  Instead, the job was quickly hers.

Her interests had included the frontier history of Wyoming—where she grew up, and Utah—where her father’s family lived.  Her professional activities, as a marine biologist specializing in sea anemones, had included archival as well as experimental research, and organization of a session at a History of Oceanography symposium.

She thought that taking on the job would be easy, since Faye Isaak had recently published her book, and Norma Trump, with the help of her husband Mike, had collected and digitized a large amount of material.

Daphne’s initial efforts focused mostly on trying to identify the people, events, and organizations depicted in a number of old photographs.  She examined old directories and interviewed long-term residents.  She enjoyed meeting the people and following their lives, but was frustrated at how difficult it was to make positive identifications in many cases.

However, new challenges were on the horizon.  She documented the progression of the Norovirus epidemic, which proved to be an excellent warm-up for the COVID-19 experience – and, of course, the Almeda fire evacuation.  All of these were not only novel events in the history of RVM, but also transformative in the terms of RVM management and aspects of resident life.

When asked about her hopes for continuation of historical information collection at RVM, she replied forcefully that it was critical to develop a system whereby the information can be reliably preserved and made available to the residents.  “Information was lost when a computer was replaced, and the Residents Council has no computer system or custodian to provide permanent storage and access,” she said.  At present, historical archives will be transferred to the next historian as a notebook and a flash drive.

Talking about Religion…

(more 6word novels)

Spiritual Diversity on the Hill

by Joni Johnson and Residents

Tis the HOLIDAY SEASON, the season of giving, and here we are, locked down tight as a drum. This year, it’s less about what we will give Uncle Smitty but more about whether we will even see him.

However, it’s also the season of sharing and a time to get to know our community even better than before.  And it turns out that some of this season of giving is a giving of ourselves.  RVM has almost 1000 residents.  We tend to think of ourselves as a fairly monolithic community. But the COMPLEMENT would like to shed light on how wonderfully diverse we are.  Some of us came to our religious beliefs at birth and still follow its tenets. Others have changed the way we believe spiritually or religiously through time and experience. While RVM is primarily Judeo-Christian, we also have among our ranks a fair number of atheists and agnostics, as well as a sprinkling of Buddhists, Hindus, Sufis, Zoroastrians and others.  We are so lucky that some of our community were willing to share a little of their culture or their memories especially during this holiday season.

November, December and January are the months of many major holiday events celebrated around the world. The * indicates a religion with a celebrant here at the Manor.

While I have attached a person to a holiday for that religion, some celebrate the holiday and some are less observant.  But they all feel connected in some way to the religion or the religious experiences listed below.

Click on the people in red and you will have a chance to read their story:

 

*11/14- HINDU- DIWALI : Festival of lights The middle of a 5 day new years celebration. Changes each year according to Hindu lunar calendar

*1/14  –   HINDU: MAKAR SANKRANTI : Hindu Seasonal celebration marking turning of the sun toward the north.

RC Vasavada

 

*12/08 – BUDDHIST: BODHI DAY (Buddha’s Enlightenment) – Mahãyãna Buddhists celebrate Buddha’s attainment of understanding

*1/ 29–31    – BUDDHIST:  MAHAYANA NEW YEAR    In Mahayana countries the New Year starts on the first full moon day in January.

*2/ 12 9  – LUNAR NEW YEAR :Confucian, Daoist and Buddhist Also known as the Spring Festival, an important festival celebrated at the turn of the traditional lunisolar Chinese calendar.

Steve Harris

 

*12/10 – JEWISH: HANUKKAH (12/11-12/18) begins at sundown – commemorates the Jewish victory over the Syrian Greeks, ending a three-year period of religious persecution. . The Hanukkah menorah (candelabrum) has 8 candles and a shamus to light them celebrating the oil that miraculously lasted for eight days instead of one.

*1/ 27  –  JEWISH:   HOLOCAUST REMEMBRANCE DAY

Daphne Fautin

 

* 12/12 EVE TO 12/13 EVE -SUFI: CELEBRATION DAY FOR MUHYI AD-DIN IBN EL-ARABI (D. 1240),  saint who honored Deity as a unity manifested in all Nature, both genders, and countless forms.  Sufism, mystical Islamic belief and practice in which Muslims seek to find the truth of divine love and knowledge through direct personal experience of God. It consists of a variety of mystical paths that are designed to ascertain the nature of humanity and of God and to facilitate the experience of the presence of divine love and wisdom in the world

Bob Hall

 

12/13- SANKTA LUCIA:  celebrated in Sweden, Norway, and the Swedish-speaking areas of Finland on December 13 in honour of St. Lucia (St. Lucy). One of the earliest Christian martyrs, St. Lucia was killed by the Romans in 304 CE because of her religious beliefs.

Lillian Maksymowicz

*12/25 – CHRISTIAN: CHRISTMAS – celebrates the birth of Jesus, a public holiday in many countries worldwide

Anita Sumariwalla

Jere Scott

Kathy Perkins

Joanne Hafner

*12/26 – ROMAN CATHOLIC: ST STEPHEN’S DAY – public holiday

*1/ 6- CHRISTIAN: (December 25-January 6 are the 12 days of Christmas):  EPIPHANY • 

Known as Theophany in Eastern Christianity, it celebrates the manifestation of Jesus as Christ. In addition, the Western Church associates Epiphany with the journey of the Magi to the infant Jesus, and the Eastern Church with the baptism of Jesus by John.

Gus Moutos

*1/ 7 –  Eastern Christian( GREEK AND Russian Orthodox)CHRISTMAS :  Most Orthodox churches celebrate Christmas 13 days later than other Christian churches based on their use of the Julian rather than the Gregorian version of the Western calendar.

Orisja Sarles

 

*(12/31-1/4)- ZOORASTRIAN: MAIDYAREM GAHAMBAR ‘mid-year’/winter feast

Russy Sumariwalla

12/20 – PAGAN AND WICCAN: Yule begins at sundown – sabbat celebrated on the winter solstice, often observed as the rebirth of the great horned hunter god and the newborn solstice sun

12/26-1/1, 2021    KWANZAA  A seven-day celebration honoring African American heritage and its continued vitality. “Kwanzaa” means “first fruits (of the harvest)” in Swahili. 

1/21 WORLD RELIGION DAY • Bahá’í Observance to proclaim the oneness of religion and the belief that world religion will unify the peoples of the earth.

 

 

Apart but together, still a community               (Victoria Gorrell)

Where shall we walk here today?                      (Judy Bamforth)

What comes next for me today?                       (Gordon and Alice Thomas)

I eat…I sleep…I love!                                          (Eric Poppick)

Positive thinking yields a happier life               (Robert Carter)

Every moment together is a gift.                      (Kay Presnell)

The Rogue Valley Manor Has Its Own Hawaiian King

by Joni Johnson

 

Kuali`i, possibly RVM’s only Eclectus parrot, lives on Quail Point Circle and can often be seen wandering the street on the shoulder of one of his adoptive parents, Keith and Barbara Maxfield. Although he was hatched in San Diego, Kuali`i is named for one of Oahu’s famous chiefs.  His parents have had a long time association with the Hawaiian Islands and came to RVM directly from Oahu.

 video of my first meeting with Kuali`i.

Kuali`i is 10 years old and while considered a large parrot is only about the size of a pigeon. He is bright green with a yellow orange beak – but if he had a mate, she would be red and purple with a black beak! The bird reference says that the Eclectus are only a little cuddly, but that they are great companions and love to sit on a perch near you or on your hand. That was certainly the case when I met him outside of his cottage and got to hold him on my finger before moving into the house for our interview.  At first, I was a little anxious but he was so sweet that we got to be somewhat attached and when it was time to leave, he sat on my finger again as if didn’t want to say goodbye.  As Keith said, if you don’t pull away, he just sits there quite happily.  As long as his flight feathers are cut after each molt, he can’t fly away, so he just walks along the street with his dad.

                    Kuali`i at two weeks

Kuali`i has been part of the Maxfields’ lives for most of his.  He is their second eclectus parrot, the first one succumbing to lung failure after a pyrotechnics display in their old neighborhood.  Parrots are very sensitive to smells like perfume, Lysol, bug spray and, of course, smoke.  So the recent fires were a cause of concern.  In the house, they managed by sealing the windows with tape and using air purifiers.  During the evacuation, they luckily had an RV and were able to get away and put him in a little cage that he hated, but that kept him safe.

He loves people and hates being alone, so traveling can be an issue and finding a bird sitter is not as easy as finding a dog sitter.  Luckily, one of the Maxfields’ neighbors offered to take care of him during a trip before Covid, so they wheeled his rather large cage down the street.  Their friends loved it so much that they are eagerly awaiting another turn.

Unlike parakeets, Kuali`i eats twice a day and has a very varied diet including edamame, sweet potato balls and other vegetables and fruits, eggs, apples and peanut butter (just like the rest of us) and chicken bones at night. His species requires more calcium and vitamin A than other parrots, so the need experienced and careful owners.

 see the video of Kuali`i eating

The Maxfields had dogs before living in Hawaii, but traveling to and from the Islands with dogs can be quite an ordeal.  So now they are definitely parrot people and since parrots typically live about 65 years, they figure Kuali`i is their last and favorite pet.  It was quite wonderful watching Keith and his bird together.  The bird clearly adored him, so I asked him if he were the favorite in the family.  He said no.  They chose this particular type of parrot because it didn’t form strong bonds to only to one member of the family.  But, at the same time, he said that Barbara was the alpha parrot. I would never have guessed.

Craft Fair Review

By Connie Kent

Though the 2020 Craft Fair on 5-6 November was smaller than usual, and it was different in many ways, it was a success for the twenty-five vendors and one hundred sixty-five shoppers who participated. Covid restrictions required that we limit the number of people in the auditorium, and storage of dining room furniture in half the auditorium limited the size of displays and the number of vendors. To maximize the number of shoppers, vendors couldn’t be present at their tables during the fair. Shoppers were limited to RVM residents and employees. The fair was held over two days rather than the usual single day.

 

Eight shoppers at a time were greeted by a sheriff wearing a black vest and sheriff’s badge. The sheriff was in place in case we had long, unruly lines of shoppers. Fortunately, that didn’t happen. Shoppers seemed to spread themselves out over the two days of the fair, and at no time were there long lines of people waiting to come in. The sheriff offered visitors a shopping bag, encouraged them to follow the arrows on the floor as they moved through the displays, and reminded them to maintain six foot distance from each other.

 

Inside the auditorium, a floor monitor was available with hand sanitizer and to direct traffic and answer questions. Following the procedure that worked well at the Big Sale, shoppers took their bags of treasures to a receipt writer, who noted each vendor number and the price of each item. Then shoppers took their receipt to a cashier just outside the auditorium and paid for their purchases.

 

One of this year’s innovations was a Virtual Fair during the month before the actual Craft Fair. Vendors who chose could advertise their offerings on The Complement website and/or on Channel 900. In addition, a number of craft items were on exhibit in display cabinets just outside the Plaza and the Manor dining rooms. Many vendors indicated they would accept advance sales. Advance sales accounted for about 30% of the total proceeds.

 

Another innovation was a two item Silent Auction during the week preceding the Fair. A quilt made by the Piece Makers, and a Sharlyn Woolley memorial afghan, made of sampler squares knitted by Sharlyn and assembled by Connie Kent, were on exhibit in the Manor lobby for people to bid on.

 

Many vendors contributed their proceeds to charities such as specific Foundation funds like Fairy Godmothers or the Disaster Relief Fund. Others, such as Piece Makers, will use theirs for materials to make things to donate to charities such as the Maslow Project.

We look forward to including some of this year’s innovations in future years’ Craft Fairs. We hope, though, by next November, to once again invite the Rogue Valley public and have a bigger fair with more vendors.

 

 

 

In The Community

Activities within and for the RVM Community

 

RVM Newcomers Group…

by Asifa Kanji*

Asifa Kanji

…Is a group for folks who have moved to the Manor in the past 12 months, and for seasoned residents who would like to get to know the new residents.

Would you like to meet and talk story with other Newcomers?

Would you like to connect with seasoned residents?

Then this is the group for you.

Monday walkabouts

This informal group meets every Monday at 3pm at the Plaza to walk, to talk and enjoy each other’s company. You can walk as fast or as slow as is comfortable. You can walk as long or as short as you want. No reservations required — Just show up with your masks and walk or stroll in twos or threes. It’s not organized, it just happens naturally.

Both Newcomers and seasoned residents are welcome to join.

Monthly get-togethers for Newcomers only.

We get together on the first Wednesday of every month from 3-4:30 pm. Because of COVID, we are presently meeting on ZOOM, but hopefully in the coming months we’ll be able to meet in person, outdoors or indoors, depending on the weather, the size of the group, and the county guidelines for group get-togethers.

We usually invite a member of the Resident Committees or Admin to give a brief (10-15 minute) talk on different aspects of life at the Manor.

If you would like to join in, you would be most welcome. Please send an e-mail to AsifaKanji@gmail.com to receive your invite, ZOOM or otherwise.

Socialize with Seasoned Residents

This is an opportunity for Seasoned Residents and Newcomers to get together socially — over a glass of wine, dinner, tea, or whatever works for you. The maximum size would be four.

Dennis Murphy is the match-maker. If you are interested in participating in this opportunity to make new friends, please call or email Dennis directly at extension 6076 or at dqmurphy@yahoo.com.

*Asifa Kanji grew up in Tanzania and Kenya, was schooled in England, fell in love and followed her heart to America in 1975. She has been a teacher, a henna artist, a computer programmer, a dilettante, a care giver and a traveler who loves to write. She is a new Manor resident, having moved to the Rogue Valley from Hawaii with her editor, her publisher, her chief art critic, and her husband.

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Previous Posts:

  1. Neighbors-2 (Claudia Macmillan), 2. Cat people (Joni Johnson); 3.  Neighbors-1 (Daphne Fautin); 4. YANA (willi Zilkey

Neighbor coincidences Part 2

by Claudia Macmillan

Several years ago, husband Jim and I were on a RVM tour bus, traveling back from Salem, OR. Seated across the aisle, were Peggy and Jon Russell. In a moment of light conversation, Peggy asked where I was born. “Trenton, New Jersey”, I replied. “Me too”, she said. She asked, “What hospital?” “Mercy” I said. “I was born there too” she said. Reaching for more, I asked her if she knew the name of her mother’s obstetrician.
Incredulously, there was another match! We tried to see if our birthdates were close..Were we in the nursery at the same time? But Peggy was born a couple of months before me.
By this time Jim and Jon were laughing and rolling their eyes, becoming bored with our little match game, but they love to recount the story years later…Two little Jersey-girls, coincidentally moved to Oregon and RVM.

Cat People Helping Cat People Helping Cats

by Joni Johnson

Salome Sato started something wonderful about three years ago.  She created a registry for cat owners who were going on vacation and needed sitters for their babies.  By the end of those three years, she  had about 35 people on board.  Some of them owned cats and wanted occasional help, some of them had cats and were willing to take in short-term boarders and some were just people who loved cats and were willing to cat-sit even though they no longer had a cat of their own.

In order to be placed on the registry, each interested person has to fill out a registration form  which includes questions about their cat- breed, temperament, age etc.  That is Salome’s part.  After that, it is up to the interested party to find their own sitter from the list. The registry is still working.

Click on this link to see if you are still on the registry. Names for Cat List If you are interested in removing your name, please contact Salome via email at salome789@gmail.com or by phone at  808.232.8541.  If you are interested in adding your name, please fill out the registration sheet attached to this link ‘20.10.25 – CAT REGISTRATION FORM rev. #1 and send it to Salome via email or call her to do it by phone.  Once you are added to the registry, you will get your copy and then when you are in need, you have your people to contact.

Someone sent a joke around today and it was too good to just pass up so I am putting it here and I know you will understand:

This morning I saw a neighbor talking to her dog. It was obvious she thought her dog understood her. I came into my house & told my cat. We laughed a lot.

What Do You Know About Your Neighbors?

 

by Daphne Fautin

One day when Scott Wetenkamp and his wife, Jean, were walking by our cottage, I remarked on his University of Illinois t-shirt. Jean responded that he was born in Mercy Hospital! I was shocked, saying “I was, too. And Sharon Wileman did her nursing training there!” All in little Urbana, Illinois. As I told Scott and Jean, when I visited Urbana a decade or so ago, Mercy was just a small stone appendage on a giant Carl Hospital that had been added to the original structure – twice!

Then I recalled that Cora Lee Seale told me she was born in Ivinson Memorial Hospital in Laramie, Wyoming, where my sister and brother were born (I tell people I had the good sense to move to Wyoming when I was three months old). The hospital where they were born (I recall she said that she had been the first baby born in that building) is no longer there – a new Ivinson Memorial Hospital has been built at the eastern edge of Laramie (which is where my mother died).

These coincidences are not just coincidences – they are links among us all. Any others for Urbana, Illinois, or Laramie, Wyoming?  Any other products of University schools? Let us know – or better yet, do you have even more improbable coincidental connections? If you do, enter the contest. (use the comments form below). We’ll publish the results, and figure out some sort of prize for the most extreme coincidence.

YANA

(A program by residents for residents)

By Willi Zilkey

A good friend left flowers at my front door the day Bob died.  I’ll never forget that act of kindness.  In 2018, she and I decided to extend this thoughtfulness to everyone who experiences a loss in our community.  The group was named YANA, You Are Not Alone.

A creative photographer in our community prints note cards for us and another resident artist rendered the photo we use on our cards to reflect the sadness we share.

One member of the team, the Canary, notifies the appropriate team member of a death in our community.   Another member happily creates a small flower arrangement.  A note of sympathy is written to accompany the flowers.  Contact with the grieving resident is made to acknowledge their loss and ask for a convenient time to deliver the flowers and note.

This is a simple kindness.  It is our privilege to let grieving residents know they are not alone.  When one of us leaves, we all grieve.

This worthwhile project is sponsored by the RVM Residents Council.