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Telling the Story of RVM

WELCOME, HISTORIAN JORDAN MO!

Jordan is Part 4 of the 3-part article below, which was crafted in part with the goal of attracting a volunteer to the position of Resident Council Historian.  It is a testimony to the writing skill and persuasive power of the staff of The Complement that it worked without even being published!  When asked to introduce herself to the subjects of her future narratives, Jordan submitted the following:
“JORDAN MO is a native of and survivor of Minnesota’s worst weather (she credits her Norwegian heritage) before migrating to California to Whittier Union High school, UCLA, and a peripatetic career in advertising, retail, banking, the LA County Assessor’s Office, political consulting and, lastly, avocado ranching.  Volunteerism included the LA Opera Company, progressive politics (especially the women’s movement) and ACLU.  Jordan and Jan Hines were close friends at UCLA and re-connected in retirement in Santa Barbara.   They decided to move on to RVM after a presentation at Fess Parker’s and a free breakfast!  Look for Jordan most afternoons walking their white Scottie dog “Annie”.”

            Faye Isaak

RVM History part 1, by Connie Kent

Once upon a time there was a tall bare hill near a middle-size town in Southwestern Oregon. From the top of the hill, one could look out over nearby fields, orchards and communities of the Rogue Valley. In 1955, several ministers from area congregations got together and dreamed. They dreamed of a retirement community that would be the finest in the country, one that would attract people from all over the United States. They formed a nonprofit corporation, purchased the first fifteen acres atop the hill, and set about promoting their vision.

Four years later, they had arranged financing, hired an architect, sold over a hundred apartments to prospective residents, and were ready to break ground for the Rogue Valley Manor. Two and a half years later, in January, 1961, the first residents moved in.

Initially, there were problems, of course. Almost immediately there was a tax issue: should residents be required to pay property taxes? There were operational deficits requiring an increase in apartment fees. There was an employee strike in 1977. There were problems with food service providers, personnel policies, and increasing indebtedness. But gradually, these obstacles were overcome, due in large part to the optimism and generosity of residents. And by its twentieth anniversary, the Manor was securely established and ready to grow.

Over the years, several residents have undertaken to record the history of the Manor, now in its sixty-first year. These are available in our library.

In July, 1981, Willa-Hoyt Budd wrote the short A History of Rogue Valley Manor, 1961-1981: In celebration of the Twentieth Anniversary.

In 1990, George M. Jemison published  A History of Rogue Valley Manor, 1955-1989.

In the years 1998 to 2003, an annual yearbook was published.

In 2015, Faye Isaak published her comprehensive history with lots of colored photos, Vision with a View: How Rogue Valley Manor Evolved through Grace and Gumption.  The book is in the RVM Library, and copies are available for sale at the RVM Foundation office ($25 apiece).

In addition, there are back copies of Hill Topics, which first appeared in November 1961 as Hill-Top-Ics.

Others have continued to carry on the work of these authors—not necessarily to write another history, but to keep track of important events as they unfold, to archive historic materials: in a word, as Manor Historians.

Norma Trump

RVM History Part 2by Joni Johnson

Norma and Mike Trump joined RVM in 2010, and she was RVM’s historian from 2011 until Daphne Fautin took over in 2015.  Before Norma, the post had gone vacant for a number of years.  While Norma never had formal training as a historian/librarian, she had been involved in genealogy for almost 60 years.  She and her husband, Mike, were extremely active with the Cloverdale Historical Society. They were in Cloverdale, California for 10 years before coming to RVM and were instrumental in helping the Historical Society erect the History Center. From the Cloverdale Historical Society current website, I was able to pull up the following paragraph: “From the early years of the Historical Society founded by Jack Howell with years of support from Marge Gray, Mike and Norma Trump, and many others to the building of the History Center, volunteers dedicated to preserving local history have made a difference”. In Mike and Norma’s honor, the research library was named the Trump Research Library.

During Norma’s time as historian, she and Mike scanned all of the old papers, catalogs and historical books as well as all of the issues of Hill Topics dating back to 1961. Everything was put on CDs.  In addition, she would go through the Mail Tribune looking for articles dealing with RVM residents including their activities, accomplishments and deaths. She would put these in binders.

Norma’s greatest wish is that RVM would finally dedicate a room to the history of the Manor with places for the binders, photographs and artifacts.  She feels that there is so much to offer our residents and prospective residents given our longevity, our own history and the continued change we see here at the Manor.

Daphne Fautin

RVM History Part 3by Daphne Fautin and Bob Buddemeier

Daphne Fautin was surprised at how easy it was to become Residents Council Historian.  She was still a newcomer (after arriving in mid-2015) when she responded to an RVMlist notice seeking a successor to Norma Trump.  “I thought there would be competition,” she said.  Instead, the job was quickly hers.

Her interests had included the frontier history of Wyoming—where she grew up, and Utah—where her father’s family lived.  Her professional activities, as a marine biologist specializing in sea anemones, had included archival as well as experimental research, and organization of a session at a History of Oceanography symposium.

She thought that taking on the job would be easy, since Faye Isaak had recently published her book, and Norma Trump, with the help of her husband Mike, had collected and digitized a large amount of material.

Daphne’s initial efforts focused mostly on trying to identify the people, events, and organizations depicted in a number of old photographs.  She examined old directories and interviewed long-term residents.  She enjoyed meeting the people and following their lives, but was frustrated at how difficult it was to make positive identifications in many cases.

However, new challenges were on the horizon.  She documented the progression of the Norovirus epidemic, which proved to be an excellent warm-up for the COVID-19 experience – and, of course, the Almeda fire evacuation.  All of these were not only novel events in the history of RVM, but also transformative in the terms of RVM management and aspects of resident life.

When asked about her hopes for continuation of historical information collection at RVM, she replied forcefully that it was critical to develop a system whereby the information can be reliably preserved and made available to the residents.  “Information was lost when a computer was replaced, and the Residents Council has no computer system or custodian to provide permanent storage and access,” she said.  At present, historical archives will be transferred to the next historian as a notebook and a flash drive.

Talking about Religion…

(more 6word novels)

Spiritual Diversity on the Hill

by Joni Johnson and Residents

Tis the HOLIDAY SEASON, the season of giving, and here we are, locked down tight as a drum. This year, it’s less about what we will give Uncle Smitty but more about whether we will even see him.

However, it’s also the season of sharing and a time to get to know our community even better than before.  And it turns out that some of this season of giving is a giving of ourselves.  RVM has almost 1000 residents.  We tend to think of ourselves as a fairly monolithic community. But the COMPLEMENT would like to shed light on how wonderfully diverse we are.  Some of us came to our religious beliefs at birth and still follow its tenets. Others have changed the way we believe spiritually or religiously through time and experience. While RVM is primarily Judeo-Christian, we also have among our ranks a fair number of atheists and agnostics, as well as a sprinkling of Buddhists, Hindus, Sufis, Zoroastrians and others.  We are so lucky that some of our community were willing to share a little of their culture or their memories especially during this holiday season.

November, December and January are the months of many major holiday events celebrated around the world. The * indicates a religion with a celebrant here at the Manor.

While I have attached a person to a holiday for that religion, some celebrate the holiday and some are less observant.  But they all feel connected in some way to the religion or the religious experiences listed below.

Click on the people in red and you will have a chance to read their story:

 

*11/14- HINDU- DIWALI : Festival of lights The middle of a 5 day new years celebration. Changes each year according to Hindu lunar calendar

*1/14  –   HINDU: MAKAR SANKRANTI : Hindu Seasonal celebration marking turning of the sun toward the north.

RC Vasavada

 

*12/08 – BUDDHIST: BODHI DAY (Buddha’s Enlightenment) – Mahãyãna Buddhists celebrate Buddha’s attainment of understanding

*1/ 29–31    – BUDDHIST:  MAHAYANA NEW YEAR    In Mahayana countries the New Year starts on the first full moon day in January.

*2/ 12 9  – LUNAR NEW YEAR :Confucian, Daoist and Buddhist Also known as the Spring Festival, an important festival celebrated at the turn of the traditional lunisolar Chinese calendar.

Steve Harris

 

*12/10 – JEWISH: HANUKKAH (12/11-12/18) begins at sundown – commemorates the Jewish victory over the Syrian Greeks, ending a three-year period of religious persecution. . The Hanukkah menorah (candelabrum) has 8 candles and a shamus to light them celebrating the oil that miraculously lasted for eight days instead of one.

*1/ 27  –  JEWISH:   HOLOCAUST REMEMBRANCE DAY

Daphne Fautin

 

* 12/12 EVE TO 12/13 EVE -SUFI: CELEBRATION DAY FOR MUHYI AD-DIN IBN EL-ARABI (D. 1240),  saint who honored Deity as a unity manifested in all Nature, both genders, and countless forms.  Sufism, mystical Islamic belief and practice in which Muslims seek to find the truth of divine love and knowledge through direct personal experience of God. It consists of a variety of mystical paths that are designed to ascertain the nature of humanity and of God and to facilitate the experience of the presence of divine love and wisdom in the world

Bob Hall

 

12/13- SANKTA LUCIA:  celebrated in Sweden, Norway, and the Swedish-speaking areas of Finland on December 13 in honour of St. Lucia (St. Lucy). One of the earliest Christian martyrs, St. Lucia was killed by the Romans in 304 CE because of her religious beliefs.

Lillian Maksymowicz

*12/25 – CHRISTIAN: CHRISTMAS – celebrates the birth of Jesus, a public holiday in many countries worldwide

Anita Sumariwalla

Jere Scott

Kathy Perkins

Joanne Hafner

*12/26 – ROMAN CATHOLIC: ST STEPHEN’S DAY – public holiday

*1/ 6- CHRISTIAN: (December 25-January 6 are the 12 days of Christmas):  EPIPHANY • 

Known as Theophany in Eastern Christianity, it celebrates the manifestation of Jesus as Christ. In addition, the Western Church associates Epiphany with the journey of the Magi to the infant Jesus, and the Eastern Church with the baptism of Jesus by John.

Gus Moutos

*1/ 7 –  Eastern Christian( GREEK AND Russian Orthodox)CHRISTMAS :  Most Orthodox churches celebrate Christmas 13 days later than other Christian churches based on their use of the Julian rather than the Gregorian version of the Western calendar.

Orisja Sarles

 

*(12/31-1/4)- ZOORASTRIAN: MAIDYAREM GAHAMBAR ‘mid-year’/winter feast

Russy Sumariwalla

12/20 – PAGAN AND WICCAN: Yule begins at sundown – sabbat celebrated on the winter solstice, often observed as the rebirth of the great horned hunter god and the newborn solstice sun

12/26-1/1, 2021    KWANZAA  A seven-day celebration honoring African American heritage and its continued vitality. “Kwanzaa” means “first fruits (of the harvest)” in Swahili. 

1/21 WORLD RELIGION DAY • Bahá’í Observance to proclaim the oneness of religion and the belief that world religion will unify the peoples of the earth.

 

 

Apart but together, still a community               (Victoria Gorrell)

Where shall we walk here today?                      (Judy Bamforth)

What comes next for me today?                       (Gordon and Alice Thomas)

I eat…I sleep…I love!                                          (Eric Poppick)

Positive thinking yields a happier life               (Robert Carter)

Every moment together is a gift.                      (Kay Presnell)

The Rogue Valley Manor Has Its Own Hawaiian King

by Joni Johnson

 

Kuali`i, possibly RVM’s only Eclectus parrot, lives on Quail Point Circle and can often be seen wandering the street on the shoulder of one of his adoptive parents, Keith and Barbara Maxfield. Although he was hatched in San Diego, Kuali`i is named for one of Oahu’s famous chiefs.  His parents have had a long time association with the Hawaiian Islands and came to RVM directly from Oahu.

 video of my first meeting with Kuali`i.

Kuali`i is 10 years old and while considered a large parrot is only about the size of a pigeon. He is bright green with a yellow orange beak – but if he had a mate, she would be red and purple with a black beak! The bird reference says that the Eclectus are only a little cuddly, but that they are great companions and love to sit on a perch near you or on your hand. That was certainly the case when I met him outside of his cottage and got to hold him on my finger before moving into the house for our interview.  At first, I was a little anxious but he was so sweet that we got to be somewhat attached and when it was time to leave, he sat on my finger again as if didn’t want to say goodbye.  As Keith said, if you don’t pull away, he just sits there quite happily.  As long as his flight feathers are cut after each molt, he can’t fly away, so he just walks along the street with his dad.

                    Kuali`i at two weeks

Kuali`i has been part of the Maxfields’ lives for most of his.  He is their second eclectus parrot, the first one succumbing to lung failure after a pyrotechnics display in their old neighborhood.  Parrots are very sensitive to smells like perfume, Lysol, bug spray and, of course, smoke.  So the recent fires were a cause of concern.  In the house, they managed by sealing the windows with tape and using air purifiers.  During the evacuation, they luckily had an RV and were able to get away and put him in a little cage that he hated, but that kept him safe.

He loves people and hates being alone, so traveling can be an issue and finding a bird sitter is not as easy as finding a dog sitter.  Luckily, one of the Maxfields’ neighbors offered to take care of him during a trip before Covid, so they wheeled his rather large cage down the street.  Their friends loved it so much that they are eagerly awaiting another turn.

Unlike parakeets, Kuali`i eats twice a day and has a very varied diet including edamame, sweet potato balls and other vegetables and fruits, eggs, apples and peanut butter (just like the rest of us) and chicken bones at night. His species requires more calcium and vitamin A than other parrots, so the need experienced and careful owners.

 see the video of Kuali`i eating

The Maxfields had dogs before living in Hawaii, but traveling to and from the Islands with dogs can be quite an ordeal.  So now they are definitely parrot people and since parrots typically live about 65 years, they figure Kuali`i is their last and favorite pet.  It was quite wonderful watching Keith and his bird together.  The bird clearly adored him, so I asked him if he were the favorite in the family.  He said no.  They chose this particular type of parrot because it didn’t form strong bonds to only to one member of the family.  But, at the same time, he said that Barbara was the alpha parrot. I would never have guessed.

Craft Fair Review

By Connie Kent

Though the 2020 Craft Fair on 5-6 November was smaller than usual, and it was different in many ways, it was a success for the twenty-five vendors and one hundred sixty-five shoppers who participated. Covid restrictions required that we limit the number of people in the auditorium, and storage of dining room furniture in half the auditorium limited the size of displays and the number of vendors. To maximize the number of shoppers, vendors couldn’t be present at their tables during the fair. Shoppers were limited to RVM residents and employees. The fair was held over two days rather than the usual single day.

 

Eight shoppers at a time were greeted by a sheriff wearing a black vest and sheriff’s badge. The sheriff was in place in case we had long, unruly lines of shoppers. Fortunately, that didn’t happen. Shoppers seemed to spread themselves out over the two days of the fair, and at no time were there long lines of people waiting to come in. The sheriff offered visitors a shopping bag, encouraged them to follow the arrows on the floor as they moved through the displays, and reminded them to maintain six foot distance from each other.

 

Inside the auditorium, a floor monitor was available with hand sanitizer and to direct traffic and answer questions. Following the procedure that worked well at the Big Sale, shoppers took their bags of treasures to a receipt writer, who noted each vendor number and the price of each item. Then shoppers took their receipt to a cashier just outside the auditorium and paid for their purchases.

 

One of this year’s innovations was a Virtual Fair during the month before the actual Craft Fair. Vendors who chose could advertise their offerings on The Complement website and/or on Channel 900. In addition, a number of craft items were on exhibit in display cabinets just outside the Plaza and the Manor dining rooms. Many vendors indicated they would accept advance sales. Advance sales accounted for about 30% of the total proceeds.

 

Another innovation was a two item Silent Auction during the week preceding the Fair. A quilt made by the Piece Makers, and a Sharlyn Woolley memorial afghan, made of sampler squares knitted by Sharlyn and assembled by Connie Kent, were on exhibit in the Manor lobby for people to bid on.

 

Many vendors contributed their proceeds to charities such as specific Foundation funds like Fairy Godmothers or the Disaster Relief Fund. Others, such as Piece Makers, will use theirs for materials to make things to donate to charities such as the Maslow Project.

We look forward to including some of this year’s innovations in future years’ Craft Fairs. We hope, though, by next November, to once again invite the Rogue Valley public and have a bigger fair with more vendors.

 

 

 

In The Community

Activities within and for the RVM Community

 

RVM Newcomers Group…

by Asifa Kanji*

Asifa Kanji

…Is a group for folks who have moved to the Manor in the past 12 months, and for seasoned residents who would like to get to know the new residents.

Would you like to meet and talk story with other Newcomers?

Would you like to connect with seasoned residents?

Then this is the group for you.

Monday walkabouts

This informal group meets every Monday at 3pm at the Plaza to walk, to talk and enjoy each other’s company. You can walk as fast or as slow as is comfortable. You can walk as long or as short as you want. No reservations required — Just show up with your masks and walk or stroll in twos or threes. It’s not organized, it just happens naturally.

Both Newcomers and seasoned residents are welcome to join.

Monthly get-togethers for Newcomers only.

We get together on the first Wednesday of every month from 3-4:30 pm. Because of COVID, we are presently meeting on ZOOM, but hopefully in the coming months we’ll be able to meet in person, outdoors or indoors, depending on the weather, the size of the group, and the county guidelines for group get-togethers.

We usually invite a member of the Resident Committees or Admin to give a brief (10-15 minute) talk on different aspects of life at the Manor.

If you would like to join in, you would be most welcome. Please send an e-mail to AsifaKanji@gmail.com to receive your invite, ZOOM or otherwise.

Socialize with Seasoned Residents

This is an opportunity for Seasoned Residents and Newcomers to get together socially — over a glass of wine, dinner, tea, or whatever works for you. The maximum size would be four.

Dennis Murphy is the match-maker. If you are interested in participating in this opportunity to make new friends, please call or email Dennis directly at extension 6076 or at dqmurphy@yahoo.com.

*Asifa Kanji grew up in Tanzania and Kenya, was schooled in England, fell in love and followed her heart to America in 1975. She has been a teacher, a henna artist, a computer programmer, a dilettante, a care giver and a traveler who loves to write. She is a new Manor resident, having moved to the Rogue Valley from Hawaii with her editor, her publisher, her chief art critic, and her husband.

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Previous Posts:

  1. Neighbors-2 (Claudia Macmillan), 2. Cat people (Joni Johnson); 3.  Neighbors-1 (Daphne Fautin); 4. YANA (willi Zilkey

Neighbor coincidences Part 2

by Claudia Macmillan

Several years ago, husband Jim and I were on a RVM tour bus, traveling back from Salem, OR. Seated across the aisle, were Peggy and Jon Russell. In a moment of light conversation, Peggy asked where I was born. “Trenton, New Jersey”, I replied. “Me too”, she said. She asked, “What hospital?” “Mercy” I said. “I was born there too” she said. Reaching for more, I asked her if she knew the name of her mother’s obstetrician.
Incredulously, there was another match! We tried to see if our birthdates were close..Were we in the nursery at the same time? But Peggy was born a couple of months before me.
By this time Jim and Jon were laughing and rolling their eyes, becoming bored with our little match game, but they love to recount the story years later…Two little Jersey-girls, coincidentally moved to Oregon and RVM.

Cat People Helping Cat People Helping Cats

by Joni Johnson

Salome Sato started something wonderful about three years ago.  She created a registry for cat owners who were going on vacation and needed sitters for their babies.  By the end of those three years, she  had about 35 people on board.  Some of them owned cats and wanted occasional help, some of them had cats and were willing to take in short-term boarders and some were just people who loved cats and were willing to cat-sit even though they no longer had a cat of their own.

In order to be placed on the registry, each interested person has to fill out a registration form  which includes questions about their cat- breed, temperament, age etc.  That is Salome’s part.  After that, it is up to the interested party to find their own sitter from the list. The registry is still working.

Click on this link to see if you are still on the registry. Names for Cat List If you are interested in removing your name, please contact Salome via email at salome789@gmail.com or by phone at  808.232.8541.  If you are interested in adding your name, please fill out the registration sheet attached to this link ‘20.10.25 – CAT REGISTRATION FORM rev. #1 and send it to Salome via email or call her to do it by phone.  Once you are added to the registry, you will get your copy and then when you are in need, you have your people to contact.

Someone sent a joke around today and it was too good to just pass up so I am putting it here and I know you will understand:

This morning I saw a neighbor talking to her dog. It was obvious she thought her dog understood her. I came into my house & told my cat. We laughed a lot.

What Do You Know About Your Neighbors?

 

by Daphne Fautin

One day when Scott Wetenkamp and his wife, Jean, were walking by our cottage, I remarked on his University of Illinois t-shirt. Jean responded that he was born in Mercy Hospital! I was shocked, saying “I was, too. And Sharon Wileman did her nursing training there!” All in little Urbana, Illinois. As I told Scott and Jean, when I visited Urbana a decade or so ago, Mercy was just a small stone appendage on a giant Carl Hospital that had been added to the original structure – twice!

Then I recalled that Cora Lee Seale told me she was born in Ivinson Memorial Hospital in Laramie, Wyoming, where my sister and brother were born (I tell people I had the good sense to move to Wyoming when I was three months old). The hospital where they were born (I recall she said that she had been the first baby born in that building) is no longer there – a new Ivinson Memorial Hospital has been built at the eastern edge of Laramie (which is where my mother died).

These coincidences are not just coincidences – they are links among us all. Any others for Urbana, Illinois, or Laramie, Wyoming?  Any other products of University schools? Let us know – or better yet, do you have even more improbable coincidental connections? If you do, enter the contest. (use the comments form below). We’ll publish the results, and figure out some sort of prize for the most extreme coincidence.

YANA

(A program by residents for residents)

By Willi Zilkey

A good friend left flowers at my front door the day Bob died.  I’ll never forget that act of kindness.  In 2018, she and I decided to extend this thoughtfulness to everyone who experiences a loss in our community.  The group was named YANA, You Are Not Alone.

A creative photographer in our community prints note cards for us and another resident artist rendered the photo we use on our cards to reflect the sadness we share.

One member of the team, the Canary, notifies the appropriate team member of a death in our community.   Another member happily creates a small flower arrangement.  A note of sympathy is written to accompany the flowers.  Contact with the grieving resident is made to acknowledge their loss and ask for a convenient time to deliver the flowers and note.

This is a simple kindness.  It is our privilege to let grieving residents know they are not alone.  When one of us leaves, we all grieve.

This worthwhile project is sponsored by the RVM Residents Council.

 

 

 

A COVID-19 XMAS

by Asifa Kanji

Give your family a special gift this Christmas — stay away from them. No hugs. No rambunctious family dinners with turkey and homemade apple pie. No clinking of wine glasses. No piling onto the couch to open gifts together.

Being robbed of the best part of the holiday festivities makes me want to curl up and stay put in bed. The thought of spending Christmas alone makes me want to cry.

But wait! What if we create a new norm for this disastrous year? How do we bring joy, laughter and love into the lives of our family, friends and neighbors?

Here’s what I’m going to do: I plan to write to each of the people I normally celebrate with — something silly, or funny, or any special memory I have of them.

Dear Mary, Remember when you made the layered Jello salad for that summer potluck? I still get the giggles when I think of how the top layer flew off like a spaceship and plopped on the floor. Remember how we tried to pick up the quivering, shivering green and orange blob and put it back on top of the layers still on the plate? We were laughing so much that we ended up with scrambled Jello. Shall miss being with you this Christmas.

 

Dear Gramps, I’ll never forget when you used to dig up the flower beds on Halloween, and bury speakers and create mounds that looked like graves. When trick-or-treaters would walk up, your wicked voice boomed from within the mounds, “Who dares to walk up my pathway?”  The kids would run away. Thank you for the wonderful memories. PS- my friends and I never believed your hoax, but we always pretended, because we loved the trick.

To others, I will just send notes telling them why they are a gift in my life.

A Christmas ritual my husband and I have is lighting many candles for the very special people that we wish were here to celebrate with us. We say a word or three about them and light a tea-candle. Those dear folks are still the light in our lives. I will light one big-tall-fat-candle for the almost 300,000 grieving families who will be spending the holiday season with an empty chair, because they lost a dear one to COVID. This one candle, I shall keep lit all day on my mantel. It will be a way to hold them in my heart and send our good energy towards them.

This year, I’m hoping to write on a bunch of yellow stickies, what gifts I’ve received during this unique year — our beautiful new home, new friendships here at RVM, a month snorkeling in Fiji, before COVID (BC), and the gift of time to finish writing my newest book, immediately come to mind. Already I feel good. I’m easy to please!

I also hope to drop off little notes at each of my neighbor’s doorsteps, just wishing them a Happy Holiday season. For some I’ll have to write, “You don’t know me, but I now live a few doors from you. Just wanted to say Happy Xmas / Kwanza/ Hanukkah/Solstice, etc. We are all in this COVID isolation together. If you feel like having a chat, feel free to call me at extension xxxx.”

Wish you all a very special and memorable holiday.

Reflections from Afar

Notes from the Complement’s ace roving correspondent, writing under the nom de pandemic:
By Nonie Tenck —

Episode 1

Living away from the Manor while caring for my sick friend (hereafter referred to as Friend), leaves me feeling quite exposed. The Manor itself is a bubble protected from the Outside World, then we all have our own smaller bubbles inside that. Here I’m completely unprotected. No, that’s not true. It’s that the mask wearing and frequent hand washing assume far greater importance.
When I go out for my walk I pull up my mask as soon as I see someone coming, and guess what — the oncomer does the same! People around here are so considerate. The clerks in the grocery store; the helpers in the stores (brought in especially for the holidays? Or hired to provide jobs for some of those out of work because of the pandemic?); the clerks and nurses at the doctor’s offices; neighbors coming by with cookies and holiday greetings — everyone.  But rather than having to remember to phone in my meal orders every day at the Manor, here I have to think of menus, go grocery shopping, help fix meals, then clean up. Quite a challenge, unaccustomed as I am.  No more lounging around in sweats all day. Every day here seems to be something that requires looking presentable. Life is far less predictable here. But that’s probably a good thing. I’m thoroughly dislodged from my rut, and I have a new perspective on living through these times. Hooray for fresh views.

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Episode 2 — On the Road (still)

This morning I took my friend to her pre-op appointment with the cancer surgeon. When we got to the head of the check in line, the girl behind the counter peered around my friend and asked “Is she here with you?” nodding at me. Then she motioned me to come forward, and I had to answer all the questions too.

When we got to the doctor’s waiting room the nurse met us and took us right in- no waiting at all! She was very chatty as she took my friend’s weight, blood pressure, and temperature.
When the doctor came in he said he couldn’t stay long because it was a busy day. But after he did the physical exam and determined that all looked good to proceed with the surgery as scheduled on the 31st, he appeared more relaxed and took his time explaining exactly what he would be doing during the surgery and what she could expect afterwards. However, there still could be a last minute change either as to time of day or even the date of surgery If there is no ICU bed available for just in case.

Tomorrow is a teleMed appointment with the anesthetist.
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Nonie’s Third Epistle to the Manorites: Christmas Eve

A cheerful Bewick’s wren came out to greet me on my walk in the woods this morning.

                          Bewick Wren

Well, I say morning, but it was almost noon because I spent most of the morning putting together a double batch of banana bread and struggled really hard to get semi-hardened glued together bird seed out of a bird feeder that had been neglected far too long outside in alternating rain and sun. I’m SO over housework!
We sent Son out at eight o’clock this morning to do last minute grocery shopping, and he had to stand in line outside in the cold for a full hour to get into the store. Glad it wasn’t me. After he got back and the groceries were all put away and the banana bread was baking, Friend started making a batch of Pecan Lace cookies and Son started work on our fancy Christmas Eve meal. It’s barely a two-butt kitchen, so that’s when I went on my walk, leaving strict instructions about when and how to take the one large loaf and four small banana breads out of the oven. Now they’re cooling. Then we’ll wrap the little ones up as gifts for friends who’ll be stopping by (outside – masked) this afternoon. Whew. I’m ready for a nap already and it’s just past noon. The pace is killing me.
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Episode Last — Returning to campus following a two week hiatus

By Nonie Tenck

Driving back from Portland in a rental car on New Years Eve, I was ambivalent about returning home after having been away for two weeks. We had decorated the house with fifty years of Christmas ornaments and then taken it all away again before Friend’s hospitalization. Now I was tired of being away, of having to plan meals and clean up afterwards, of listening to someone else’s choice of news channels, of constantly tripping over a dog who wanted to be in the middle of things, of not having readily available a new book to read in the from Manor library, of not having a convenient place to do my exercises, of not having the right knitting needles readily to hand. I was looking forward to returning to my comfortable rut, but I wondered: was I was going back to such a predictable routine that I would feel I was in a cage?

Living at the Manor is so easy. We ARE awfully well protected here, especially in the high rise buildings. I hardly have to take care of myself; I have become lazy. In some ways my independence is limited: I am told to mask, and if I forget, my neighbors remind me. I am told to keep my distance. Only one person in the elevator at a time. No gatherings with friends. My meal options are laid out for me. My shopping options, my exercise options and my recreation opportunities – all are limited.

The same Covid limitations exist elsewhere, but it felt like the individuals I came into contact with (however briefly) when I was out walking or at the grocery store or visiting the doctor’s office with my sick friend — all had thoughtfully chosen to wear masks and limit their contacts. Here, some of the thinking part of it is done for us. I don’t know. It just feels like in some ways we exist within an artificial bubble, our own small world. Of course, one of the huge benefits is that the incidence of Covid here is much much lower than at many other retirement communities.

Being on the road was marvelous. The ever changing landscape felt liberating. I saw skeins of geese overhead and the occasional hawk on a tree. Cars and trucks whizzed by around me. Alternating showers and clouds and brief periods of sunlight required flipping the visor down and ducking my head as I swung it to the side. I was out in the real world for a short time. I had a most welcome taste of freedom before turning in the rental and returning to my little living space and my little circle of friends.

P.S. Friend called me on New Years Day to report that her four-hour surgery was successful. A fitting beginning for a new and better year ahead.

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A Note on a Note

 

by Bob Buddemeier

Once, in a time long ago (60 years) in a land far away (cold war West Germany), my assignment was to test recent graduates of the Army Language School to see if they could extract information from tapes of intercepted Russian radio transmissions.  When Rusty came in for testing I thought it would be easy.  He was brilliant, with a degree in music theory.  Pretty far out on the weird end of the spectrum, but brilliant.

To my surprise, when we sat down at the double-headphone tape machine, he bogged down very quickly.  Russian is a synthetic language, with each of many syllables contributing its nugget of significance to the overall meaning of the word.  I figured out the syllable he wasn’t getting, and rocked the tape back and forth across that section.  “OK, Rusty, what was that?” I asked.  He looked at me with a beatific smile and said, “C-sharp.”

I assume he was right; I wouldn’t know a C-sharp if I cut myself on one.  I don’t know what, if anything, Rusty got out of this, but for me It was an unforgettable lesson —  there we were, in the same room, wearing the same uniforms, hooked up to the same electromechanical device, listening to the same sound, and he was in the C-sharp world while I was in the ‘prefix meaning out or away from’ world.

Now I’m here at RVM where people tend to look and sound pretty much alike, but I find there are still C-sharp people and prefix people (plus others, with still other answers).  By definition it’s a community, but is there anything very communal about it?

The Complement is an effort to find the commonalities that beget real community.  On one side of the page is Preparedness – the rude objective reality where the individual’s chance of survival increases exponentially with their degree of cooperation with others.  On the other side, there are the contributed arts — a very different reality with the potential to transcend barriers.  And in between, the world of words with which we build walls, or occasionally bridges.  Let’s try rocking the tape back and forth across that junction – if we do it long enough, maybe we can start hearing some of the same things.

 

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Resident Evacuation Experiences, Part 1

The following are first person write-ups submitted by residents.  Others will be added as they arrive, and new “articles” will be added as the threads become too long.  The pieces are unedited except for disguise of the names of people who have not given their permission to be identified.  Ed.

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Jan Hines
Connie Kent
Anita Sumariwalla


Photos by Eric Eisenberg

Evacuation

by  Jan Hines

This is the email that I sent to a few friends and family.

The fire that began as a grass fire In Ashland on Tuesday, September 8, 2020, erupted with frightening speed into a huge conflagration due to the excessive winds we’ve had over the past few days. It destroyed some of Ashland and most of Phoenix and Talent before advancing toward Medford and the Rogue Valley.  Our homes at Rogue Valley Manor were right in the path.   The entire community was evacuated to the Rogue Valley Country Club which closed all of its activities including the golf course to assist the Manor.  Everyone was evacuated from independent living, assisted living, the health center, skilled nursing and the the memory care unit.  This wasn’t an easy task, as you can imagine, having to transport and settle almost 1000 residents and a large group of staff. The kitchen staff and chefs stayed behind to prepare meals in the Manor kitchen. Meals, along with snacks, beverages, toiletries, bottled water and piles of bedding were brought to the Country Club in vans and small buses.  Our past director, Sarah Lynch, came on board to direct staff and problem solve at the Country Club while the current director, Stan Solmenson, remained at the Manor to aid in protection of the property and oversee whatever needed his immediate attention.  Residents were upbeat and resilient, taking the adventure in stride, but my heart went out to the old and frail and those on walkers and in wheelchairs.  Uncomplaining, they sat for hours and slept in chairs along with most everyone else. The RVM staff was simply incredible, working through the night with smiles on their faces although we later learned that several of them had lost their homes in the fire.  Caring people helping people was the overall feeling I came away with, including both residents and staff.

Jordy and I slept in the car with Annie, our Scottie, and this worked well for us.  The car faced the direction of the Manor and all through the night I could see the red glow and leaping flames just to the left of the Manor, knowing that a few miles away was my cottage, filled with those special things that make a house a home.  Understanding that the morning might find it gone was hard to imagine.  Fortunately, the wind began to ease and the fire didn’t jump I-5 which was the only thing keeping it from Rogue Valley Manor. At noon on Wednesday we were told that the evacuation orders were lifted and we could go home.

I am grateful to be well and safe and that my cottage was waiting for me just as I’d left it. I count my blessings.

Addendum , 9/10/20

I wrote my email immediately after returning home from the evacuation and at that time had no knowledge of the whereabouts of those residents from health care, skilled nursing and memory care.  Thanks to Lynda Hansen’s post, I now know that these residents were evacuated to appropriate locations along with their caregivers, not the Country Club.  I have amended my comments to reflect that.  I also caught the misspelling of Stan’s name which has been corrected.  The main thing about all of the evacuation arrangements for our well being by the RVM administration and staff is the attention given to providing the best of care for all residents of Rogue Valley Manor.  I feel so fortunate to call it home.
Jan Hines

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by Connie Kent

We were evacuated to the Rogue River Country Club yesterday around 4 pm, not knowing how long we’d be there. We’d been having very strong winds and intermittent power outages during the earlier afternoon. We had only very short notice to evacuate, so people arrived with various degrees of preparation.

About five hundred of us were scattered among two floors and half a dozen or so rooms plus a patio overlooking the golf course. Among us were a significant number with mobility issues and cognitive issues. Some of the other 950+ Manor residents went to stay with family or friends. Medford hotels were all full, so some traveled to hotels as far away as Grants Pass. Health Center people went into various skilled nursing facilities, and I don’t know where the memory care folks went, but everyone from the campus was evacuated. The administration did an excellent job of accounting for everyone. XXXXXX, who had recently moved here from YYYYTY with her husband ZZZZZ, was out getting a haircut when the evacuation order came. Between being spatially challenged and not knowing her way around Medford well, she spent three hours wandering around in her car, lost. When we talked to ZZZZZ, he just said he didn’t know where she was. She eventually found her way to the country club. She doesn’t even know how. A good number of the cottage residents went to the Expo building at the county fairgrounds, the evacuation center for the general Medford population. Those folks, too, were redirected and eventually joined us.

Our room on the second floor housed about two dozen people. From the window, we could see a glow all across the southern sky and flames after it got fully dark. Not the worst emergency shelter, except there were no beds. A call went out to the country club members requesting bedding, so all during the evening, people came in with armloads of quilts, pillows, sheets, even some blow-up beds, perfect strangers, children among them, answering our need. By bedtime most everyone had been accommodated in one way or another. Some were draped across several chairs, others had layers of quilts on the floor, some few lucky got the blowup mattresses. Others sat up all night. Members of the RVM home health care department moved among us during the night helping people up from the floor so they could go to the bathroom or find their meds by flashlight. One lady in our room insisted on using the mylar emergency blanket she had brought. It went crinkle, crinkle, crinkle all night long.

None of us got much sleep, and, way too early, people started to move around and talk again. About six o’clock a lady came by with thermos jugs of hot coffee and paper cups and about an hour later, breakfast. During the morning, we waited. Fortunately, I had brought my knitting, and two friends and I took a little walk, but lots of folks just sat and visited. Throughout the morning, administrative type people came by with updates. We didn’t know but what we’d be staying another night – dreadful thought. Finally, a guy came and said our evacuation level had been reduced from three (Flee) to two (Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice). Buses were gassed up and drivers were waiting, and we came home around noon. Sack lunches were waiting for us to pick up in the Manor lobby. All in all, we were well looked after.

But the towns of Talent and Phoenix, between here and Ashland, where the fire started, have been 80% destroyed – houses, businesses. No word yet on lives lost. But no damage to the 600 some odd acres of Manor property. As far as I know, we’re still under a Level Two advisory, but the winds have subsided a bit, so I think the danger for us is over. But we understand that a number of employees have lost their homes. The effects are not over.

Take care of yourselves. You never know.

Connie

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Fire over Rogue Valley 9/9/2020

by Anita Sumariwalla

From our Plaza building apartment facing south-west on the sixth floor I was watching – and remained ‘glued’ to the window as the smoke clouds from Ashland were driven and pushed northward by unpredictable winds. As the fire moved onward toward Talent, the smoke turned into mean dark-gray, billowing moving walls. The gusts of wind played cruel havoc with sparks that ignited new fires east, then west and, again east of Route 5. Police cars forced cars and smaller pick-up trucks to return north (against the traffic) toward Medford. The large, heavy trucks were first ordered to the side of the road, then had to take Phoenix exit. However, with the ruthless winds the fire moved northward from Talent along Route 5 and west to Route 99 toward Phoenix. By then, the landscape beyond was completely blocked by angry and stubborn black smoke-walls on both sides of Routes 5 and 99. Here and there one could see flames eagerly leaping from tree to new trees surrounding homes. Mercilessly chased by the erratic gusts of wind the fire moved turning into cinder whatever was in the way on it’s errand of greed for destruction!
I watched the daring manoeuvres of the small and larger red ‘fire-planes’, stirred by incredibly courageous pilots, heading  fearlessly straight into the black smoke-walls dumping the heavy red fire-retardant substance onto the threatened landscape.  There were a couple of times when two planes appeared to be heading straight toward one another… I knew that many brave fire-fighters on the ground faced danger to themselves in the hope to rescue and save other people!
I think I prayed during the entire morning… until we received the order to evacuate. My heart sank because I knew then that my prayers would not protect all the people…
Watching, helplessly from the window this fury of elements challenging the most daring control by man, convinced me, once again, how desperately in need we – the country – the world – is/are for Climate Change!!!

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